Journal #16

I remember in 6th grade, there was this girl in my group of friends who had a very distinct personality and clothing style. She loved pink, and the environment, and horses. She always wore those shirt with cute little cartoons with sweet sayings on them. Then one day she started wearing darker eyeliner. She also started to wear skinny jeans and black. Shirts with screamo and emo bands on them. When this happened I remember thinking, "Wow, she looks exactly like another one of my friends". As soon as she was accepted into our friend group, she started acting just like this other girl. She suddenly had the same interests and style as my other friend. When I see things like this, I think of that person as fake. I lose my respect for that person's individuality. It makes me not want to be their friend at all. And that's what I did to that girl. I stopped hanging out around her, and soon so did the girl whose style she had copied. Thinking back, I know that that was kind of a mean thing to do, but I still think it was the right thing to do, looking back on it. Now this girl has different friends and her new mix of style is somewhere in between what she used to have and then the copied style. I guess she could not get rid of the style that she had adapted back in middle school.  as far as I know, this girl is happy and does not think that she ever copied someone. I guess she just really wanted to fit in and did whatever it took without really realizing it. People change all of the time, for many different reasons. Trying to fit in amongst friends is just one of them. Another would be if they wanted more attention. People dress different if they do not receive enough attention, or if they feel neglected. Dress is one of the easiest was to be noticed.